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Exuding Confidence As A Woman
As women, it can hard to even be the slightest bit confident, with the constant comparison of the perfect women we see on social media, never seemingly never ending thoughts of “I’m not good enough.” We battle with ourselves, our mind, society, social media. Constantly telling us we’re not good enough. How can you exude confidence with constant reminders saying you aren’t?
Confidence is not some natural ability that you are born with. Confidence has to be built, created. But how do you learn how to be confident, how to exude confidence?
In order to exude confidence, you need to learn a few tips and tricks to help you build up your confidence, but also learn how to pretend to be confident even when you’re not. Because you can’t be confident all of the time, sometimes you need to fake confidence. And that’s okay!
We all have bad days and face challenges. We all have days we don’t feel pretty or smart. That’s just a part of life.
No matter you’re situation, whether you’re wanting learn how to exude confidence at work, to impress a first date or just feel and perform at your best, then these confidence building tips will help you exude confidence effortlessly as the badass woman that you are.
Why Having Confidence Is Important
The thoughts that creep into our head that tell us we’re not good enough, or pretty enough. Smart enough. Fit enough. They make us feel small. Incapable. Not worthy. Useless. Ugly. Fat. Dumb.
When we feel this way, we don’t act, behave, socialize in a way that is beneficial to us. We shy away, don’t go after opportunities, pass on plans, don’t speak up.
In turn, we lose amazing career opportunities, promotions, raises, miss out on relationships, opportunities to go after lifelong goals and dreams. We miss out on life.
And it’s time to stop that. Because you deserve good things. You are capable of conquering your dreams. You are beautiful and unique. You have all the abilities you need to be successful. So it’s time to start acting like it.
So you can get that promotion, ask your crush out on a date. Conquer your goals and dreams.
What Does It Mean To Exude Confidence?
What exactly does it mean to be confident? When you don’t feel confident, it can be hard to know what to do to make yourself more confident.
Being confident is being certain of yourself and your abilities. It’s believing that you are smart enough, worthy enough and capable. It’s feeling that you can accomplish anything you set you mind to.
It’s not being afraid to mess up. And knowing things will be ok in the end. It’s believing you can do the impossible. Feeling comfortable in yourself and your actions.
And it’s truly such a freeing feeling to be confident. And a little confidence can get you so far in life. Even if you’re faking it.
Even when you don’t feel confident, you can still make yourself appear confident. Make others think you exude confidence.
Make them think you are capable, worthy and beautiful.
Because you are.
How To Exude Confidence As A Woman
Have you ever met one of those women that just radiates confidence? So effortlessly? Sure of themselves, with every action, every part of their being.
How do they do that?
Be just so damn sure of themselves all the time?
Well, chances are they’re not!
You only see what they want you to see.
No one is 100% confident all the time. No one.
But they’ve learned how to be confident when they need to be. When it matters.
So, I’m here to help you learn how to exude confidence as a women. Even when you don’t really feel confident. You’ll be able to exude confidence. Yes, really! You may think being confident is impossible. I used to think the same thing. I felt like I was the least confident person in the world.
But since I’ve been working on building up my self-confidence, self-esteem and made these habits a priority, I’ve become much happier with myself. Much more confident and I feel so much more capable. It’s truly a great feeling. And I want you to be able to experience that too.
So that you can show up when you need to with your game face on, ready to tackle anything life throws your way. With confidence! These confidence building tips and tricks are easy to implement into your daily routine so that you can be the most confident girl in the room.
1. WORK ON YOUR MINDSET
Exuding confidence is all about your mindset. It’s where you need to start when learning how to be more confident. Creating a more positive mindset will help you be more positive to yourself. And in order to exude confidence, you need to love yourself, accept yourself, be proud of yourself and know that you are capable.
So you can’t listen to those thoughts in your mind telling you otherwise!
When those thoughts pop into your head, don’t listen. Push them out and repeat to yourself that you are capable, worthy, valued, smart, beautiful. Because you are.
2. CREATE YOUR MANTRA
Having a mantra, or phrase, is key for when you really need your confidence to shine! A mantra will help immediately boost your confidence so you can perform at your best.
A mantra, or any phrase that helps you feel good about yourself will work.
- I’ve got this
- I am enough, I do enough, I have enough
- I can do tough things
- I can do anything I set my mind to
- I am worthy of this. I deserve this.
- I am powerful
See, aren’t those awesome? Repeat those to yourself right now. Don’t you feel so much better? More capable? More confident?
So, instead of letting negative thoughts consume you, you will replace them with these amazing positive, self-confidence building mantras!
3. SEE THE GOOD
Being confident is also about seeing the good. Focusing on the good. Instead of focusing on the negatives. When you wanna be a confident woman, you can’t assume the worst is going to happen. You can’t expect to fail. You’re just setting yourself up for failure if you do.
Learning to seek out the good in a situation is all about changing your mindset. It takes work and it takes practice. But it will improve your life overall, not just your confidence.
No one likes negative Nancy, ya know?
So, in order to set yourself up for success, you have to believe in yourself and your abilities. You have to pick out the good in the situation and focus on the positive.
Assume you’ll nail your job interview. Assume you’ll have all the answers. Assume things will go your way. Assume you’re the most confident woman in the room.
4. LOVE YOURSELF
Practicing self-love is hard. But you can’t be confident if you don’t love yourself! Learning to love yourself for you you are, despite your flaws and past mistakes will give you so much confidence you won’t even believe it.
It’s truly amazing when you finally learn to love yourself. How much more confident you feel in daily life.
Love yourself for who you are. Love yourself for accomplishing all that you have. You are so deserving of love.
5. LOOK THE PART
Part of feeling and exuding confidence is feeling and looking pretty. When you feel pretty, you will feel more confident. Simple as that. On days when you don’t feel confident or feel attractive, that’s when you really need to help yourself to make yourself feel and look pretty.
So when you’re feeling down, make sure to put a little more effort into your appearance. Style your hair in the way that shows off your beautiful facial features. Add a little extra drama to your pretty eyes. Wear that gorgeous dress that makes you feel like a million bucks.
You will instantly feel more confident when you do things that make you feel good about yourself.
Take care of your body and your outward appearance. When you put effort into how you look, other people will be able to notice. You’ll look put together, confident and it will draw people to you.
You will look good and exude self confidence and make you feel like the powerful, capable and beautiful woman you are.
6. IMPROVE YOUR POSTURE
No one got anywhere in life with a bad posture. It looks unprofessional, sloppy and lazy. And that’s certainly not what you want to exude! You want to exude confidence, power and beauty.
Think of all the confident people you have come across. Do they hunch over in the chair? Is their body posture shy? Do they cower away? NO!
Stand up tall, with your back straight and shoulders pulled back. When you’re sitting do the same. Don’t hunch over.
It’s hard to change your posture, but once you are more aware of how your body is positioned, you will be able to change your posture and it will soon become a habit. And your back will thank you!
7. TRY A POWER POSE
My college speech professor taught me about power poses and I’ve reaping the benefits of them ever since. If you don’t know what a power pose is, it’s essentially just posing in a way that takes up more space in a room.
For example, one of the most common power poses is a “superman” pose. Where you stand with your feet wide, hands on your hips, chest out and head up.
Power poses are such an easy way to literally exude confidence in a room full of people.
You can also use them before a big speech, presentation, interview etc. Just find a place to yourself and do a power pose for a few minutes beforehand. You will feel so much more confident immediately!
You can also do power poses while you are performing, such as giving a presentation or speech. Obviously, don’t stand like a superman while giving a speech, but you can stand with you feet hip width apart, roll your shoulders back.
8. AVOID LOW POWER POSES
Opposite of power poses, low power poses are closed and guarded positions of your body. Whereas power poses show confidence and power, low power poses show shyness and lack of confidence. You don’t want that!
My college speech professor taught us about lower power poses as well, and I was guilty (and still am) of almost all of them. I had no idea that I was subconsciously doing this because I was shy.
Here are some examples of low power poses you are probably guilty of.
- placing your hand on your neck
- sitting bent over
- arms wrapped around you
- sitting with your legs together, hands in your lap
- keeping hands in your pockets
Essentially, making yourself smaller.
If you’re confused, google some low power poses and I’m sure you are guilty of doing these. But now you’ll be aware and can change that.
9. HOW YOU SPEAK MATTERS
How you talk plays a huge part in exuding self confidence. Speaking to quietly, or too fast will make you appear shy, nervous and unconfident. Speaking softly, or not at all, does not exude confidence at all.
Even using filler words, like, um, uh, etc. they do not exude confidence. When you are speaking, you want people to be drawn to you, you want them to truly listen to what you are saying, you want them to think you know what you’re talking about (even if you don’t).
Ever wonder how car salesmen seem to rope you in? It’s because they are super confident and the way they talk is the biggest part.
I am one of those people that talk really fast, rambles on and on and speaks very quietly. I know how hard it is to change. But, I’m here to tell you it’s possible!
Before you start speaking, pause, take a deep breath and focus. You need to learn how to control your speech. So you don’t feel the need to fill the silence with mumbo jumbo.
Project your voice, don’t yell obviously, but speak up so that people can hear you. When you aren’t afraid to make your voice heard, you will instantly be seem confident.
Remove filler words, try not to say like, um, uh, etc. This is super hard to do, I know.
Don’t speak in a monotonous tone.
Articulate your words clearly so that everyone can understand you.
10. MAKE EYE CONTACT
You need to be one of those people that just aren’t afraid of making eye contact. That aren’t afraid to look you in the eye when they’re talking to you. It instantly makes you seem more confident when you aren’t afraid of looking at another person.
Don’t be one of those people that talks and talks but always looks directly past the person, or looks down at the floor. That’s the worst thing you can do when trying to exude confidence.
So often we tend to look away when in conversation because it makes us uncomfortable to look someone in the eye for more than a second.
When you’re in a room full of people and staring at the floor or gazing around the room, no one is going to think you’re a confident woman!
And to make it worse, when you’re talking with someone and won’t look them in eye, no one is going to want to talk to you because you aren’t listening to them and appear distracted, uninterested and shy. That’s a huge red flag to employers, even love interests.
You need to be able to hold a professional conversation!
Of course you don’t have to stare the person down the entire time you’re talking to them, but you do, absolutely must, make eye contact a majority of the time. Feel free to break away occasionally. But not too much.
11. DON’T FIDGET
I am a huge fidgeter when I am nervous. I talk with my hands, move around in my chair, whatever seems to bring my comfort in times of stress. Fidgeting does not even come close to exuding self confidence.
Playing with your hair, fidgeting with your jewelry, shaking your leg, tapping the table, all of that is fidgeting. We do it because we feel we need to be doing something.
But we don’t have to do.
We can just stand, hold a conversation. Talk about whatever it is you’re talking about. Without fidgeting.
Developing awareness of your habits is crucial to being able to stop fidgeting when you’re nervous. Next time you’re nervous, look at what you’re doing. What’s your fidgeting behavior?
Once you’re aware of your behaviors, you’ll be able to consciously avoid fidgeting.
12. DON’T APOLOGIZE
Confident people don’t apologize for everything they do. When we feel self-conscious we tend to apologize for what we see as mistakes. When in fact, you truly aren’t doing anything worthy of apologizing for.
Apologizing too much comes across low self-confidence and low self-esteem.
Apologizing for every little thing you do does not exude self confidence in the least.
No more apologize. Own what you do. Own your behavior. Own who you are. Because when you do, you will never need to apologize for something silly!
13. PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE
Whether it’s a speech, a job interview, or a first date, feeling comfortable and confident starts with practice.
When I took speech in college, my first speech was a mess. I was all over the place, stumbling over my words. Forgetting what to say. And it’s because I didn’t practice.
My professor gave me the tip of practicing what you’re going to say. That way, when the time comes for you to speak up, you’ll feel prepared and exude confidence!
Practicing really does help! I am the type of person that can’t think before they speak. So a bunch of words just come out and I end up rambling on. This does not look good in a job interview.
So, when the time came to start applying for jobs, I did mock interviews with myself. I googled common interview questions, sat down and asked myself “how would I answer this?”
Because I was familiar with the questions and how I answered them, I was able to ace my interviews. I felt more confident during my interviews and didn’t nervously ramble the whole time.
14. BE CHARISMATIC AND WARM
Confident people are always warm and inviting. They draw you to them. They’re charming and mesmerizing. Magnetic. They just have this quality about them that makes them so irresistible to be around and listen to.
They’re just likable!
Charismatic people are people people. They can hold conversation, listen intently, always know what to say.
You can be more charismatic in the way you look at people, interact with people, your personality and your looks.
15. FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT
No one is 100% confident all the time. In fact, most confident people you see are just faking it. Part of exuding confidence is being able to fake being confident. Fooling people into thinking you’re confident, even when you’re not.
This obviously takes practice, but mimic the behaviors of confident people you see and interact with. Take note of what they do. And then do the same.
You’ll appear more confident to others (even when you’re really not).
Final Thoughts On Exuding Confidence
Think about politicians, car salesmen, news anchors always have that confidence in themselves. Do you think they feel confident every second of the day? Chances are they don’t. They’re normal people just like us. They have their bad days, too.
But they have learned how to exude confidence even when they don’t feel confident. They’re practice. They’ve mastered.
And using the above tips can help you radiate self-confidence, too!
So get to work and put on that calm exterior, look confident, even if you actually aren’t on the inside. Learning the knack for faking confidence takes a little practice and work. But in no time, you’ll get the hang of it and be able to fool the smartest of people.
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Did these confidence tips help you to be able to exude confidence when you needed to? Have you grown more confident since using these tips? Let me know down below!